I am a thoroughly non-ritualistic person and I don’t mean no disrespect. I love festivals like any other person. I celebrate and enjoy them too but I like to adhere to more logical/ traditional explanation and relevance of the same rather than the customs that the society had developed over years.Same goes for Karvachauth. I fast, I do my pooja and I pray for my husband’s health and well-being. But find myself cringing away from the red saris, mehendi rituals and all the other paraphernalia that’s developing new sales strategies around it . Don’t get me wrong, I have no qualms against for the girls who do it. Girl! if it makes you happy go do it! and enjoy in thoroughly!!! I am just saying its not my thing.
However, there are other things that fascinate me about it-
- Like, why is it celebrated on this particular day? Is the alignment of the moon and the energies it radiates around on this day conducive to a more fulfilling and happy married life?
- Did our elders, who were extremely perceptive about the rhythms and cycles of natural phenomenons feel something change on this day that made them conceptualize this festival?
- Or is it because the moon carries an Orange tint on this night which reminds one of the relevance of this color in the wedding rituals( the sindoor, the red sari and the likes)?
- Could it be because the Karik Chaturthi moon suddenly seems to pop out from the middle of the horizon?
- Or is it because this moon is different and more beautiful than all other nights of the year and to make sure that it was given its due attention this festival is celebrated?
The reason could be anything. All I am saying is I wish I had more answers than questions about this day. However, I do feel that the rituals were also developed to keep women from thinking about food all day long, which would otherwise trivialize the whole point of fasting, and I respect that. My Karvachauth ritual is around this technique.
We have been doing this for so many years now that I’ve forgotten when we started. So, once my husband is back from work on this day we move out for a drive, not towards the city but towards Mumbai’s few hilltops. Earlier we used to head towards the edge of Goregaon these days its Powai hill. So, we drive up to a hill and spend some time quality time there chit chatting, waiting for the moon. And when it comes out I do my pooja , even touch my husband’s feet (this one day in the year ). We are equal partners but I do believe he deserves my love and respect and I feel blessed and grateful that I get to share my life with him. On a lighter note, also because I like to believe that I am not a compulsive rebel. Now come to think of it, that’s the thing about customs and traditions they slowly creep in without you being aware about them. And I love that part.
So that’s about it. How do you celebrate your Karvachauth ? Have you also , like me, drifted into a ritual while claiming all the time that you are not into it? Let me know, I would love hear about it.